You here it all the time. Gender differences don’t exist. The only difference between men and women is biological sex.
It follows that everything humans do, men and women are equally likely to do it. If people seem to act according to gender, it’s an illusion caused by stereotypes.
Well, that’s close to true. Sort of. There are plenty of traditional gender traits that are merely stereotypes. There are plenty of people who do not behave and think like either ordinary males or ordinary females.
But there is also such a thing as ordinary female behavior. There is such a thing as ordinary male behavior. The two do not overlap one hundred percent. These patterns are not stereotypes but observations about how humans actually behave. How could anyone be so oblivious as to think there is no difference?
As a matter of fact, they don’t think exactly that. Not the people who talk to me about it.
When people assert that gender differences don’t exist, they aren’t just making an observation. They are trying to change someone’s behavior. The argument is essentially, “Gender differences don’t exist. That behavior is gender-linked. Therefore that behavior is inappropriate.”
This seems illogical at first. It is only illogical if we take it all literally. The first sentence is clearly not literally true anyway, so it’s most likely the first sentence that means something less obvious. So let’s try taking the second and third sentences at face value.
These people are aware of gender differences. They just don’t approve of them.
When they say there is no difference, that’s an abbreviation for “There is nothing about being male or female that justifies thinking or behaving in a particular way based on one’s biological sex.”
You’ll excuse me for knocking down a straw man. I just want to point out that it is a straw man.
Or, I should say, a straw person whose gender is irrelevant.